More on Child Like Heart

This thought that I have may take some time to discuss.  It is more on the Child Like Heart Post, I feel that it is important because of my Criticism Post.  An other class work of mine from Ivy Bridge is on praise so that is how i will start my thought on More on a Child Like Heart thought.

Timko Mathiasen Week 4 Unit 4 Discussion 2 Praise

Praise

This topic I see also goes back to Amy Chua as well. Have you noticed in all the media giving with Amy Chua, she was cut off, only for the media to exploit their point they wanted to show. Is the media showing her as a monster, never giving love or praise to her children?

I feel sometimes as a country, nation, people we question too many things. Then, were are our values of praise¹ that is to say the expression of approval, commendation and merit since in short this is what we are talking about with our children, not praise to a deity or god. It takes practice being a parent and an employer. We are going to make mistakes in missing that mark, or point in time when we should show the proper affection or emotion to a child's works or an associates works. These works can be a art craft, a sport game and a school or work project. Practice in being a parent or employer includes praise, we do not stay the same, we change, yes their are parts of us that is a constant but we change, so must our practice in being a parenting or an employer. Interesting revelation in writing this, the laws says you need a license to practice medicine, I hope one never needs a license to practice being a parent, since it is a life long job, a skill one needs to polish everyday.

The question of praise of out "comes" and "effort" is frivolous, not have scene. Each action is not frivolous, our parenting or our child's actions. To explain further, each decision is made based on a child's' or an associates needs and not to be a stereo typed decision or classified act, since praise is an act toward our children and associates.

In short praise has it spot, but not a classified or a stereo typed act based on a word “outcome” or “effort”. This includes how a person practices being a parents or in how we practice being coworkers or how bosses practices being our employer. I have a badge at work “In training”, someone said I am no longer in training and my reply was I am in training for life, there is always something to improve or new to learn. Praise God, give praise like approval, commendation and merit for effort². Effort does include achievements, this is the classified “outcome”, effort does include exertion and attempts, this is the classified “effort” of hard work.

1 http://www.thefreedictionary.com/praise

1. Expression of approval, commendation, or admiration.

2. The extolling or exaltation of a deity, ruler, or hero.

3. Archaic A reason for praise; merit.

tr.v. praised, prais·ing, prais·es

1. To express warm approbation of, commendation for, or admiration for.

2. To extol or exalt; worship.

2 http://www.thefreedictionary.com/effort

1. The use of physical or mental energy to do something; exertion.

2. A difficult exertion of the strength or will: It was an effort to get up.

3. A usually earnest attempt: Make an effort to arrive promptly.

4. Something done or produced through exertion; an achievement: a play that was his finest effort.

5. Physics Force applied against inertia.

My thought is to bring the bible and through the dictionary to bring together what I call the human skill that we as people need clarification on, not from an employers point of view alone or the the bibles point of view alone or anyone persons point of view but every one's.  So stay tuned for More on Child Like Heart!

Criticism

I am taking on-line classes at Ivy Bridge College for Computers in Information Technology and one of our recent discussions moved me to share with you.  Yes it is about Criticism.  Always read and teach your children the bible, keep doing so to save everyones life.  It questions about if we as people are too soft, need constant reassurance and if criticism is to hard in the work environment.  The foundation of our study is from a book written by Carol S. Dweck, Ph.D. and the title of the book is "Mindset, the new Psychology of Success", it is a good read, and I do hate to read, but it does have my attention.  I am at chapter 6 now, just finished chapter 5 today to hand in this paper.  Any way:

Timko Mathiasen Week 4 Unit 4 Discussion 1 Criticism

Criticism

I have many thought of Criticism, some that are normal to mans thinking and pleasing to the ego of the course and then there is the one who read the bible. I bring this in because we are talking about how a person feels and God created us with his quality. To ignore where our in born quality to dehumanize a man or woman, that we have no emotions at all. Moving forward to the question I will try my best to answer the question of Criticism with out preaching.

I personally find the work atmosphere at every single job I have worked since I start my first job all dehumanizing. Criticism and constant reassurance exist because we think we all should be robots in the work atmosphere. This goes back to Amy Chua, in shielding her children is not cause of week children rather giving them time to explore their human qualities that world will soon take away from them at school, work, and general contact at the store. The world will gnaw at us all soon enough, so why rush it! It is the parents job to build the communication and social skills of our child, not the worlds. The balance of criticism and reassurance is yielded by the lack of these unbuilt skills of communication and socialization replaced by rebellious contact in the world. That we released our kid in to early in to the world, with out proper eduction and monitoring of their activities while the grow up. We only heard about bomb is other countries, then our government buildings, then our colleges, and now our own high schools are not safe because we don't properly educate our children on the skills of communication and socialization, keep in mind these skill do dialog on behavior that is to say internal and external stimuli, our feelings, our thought process, our reaction to, in the circumstances. Everything, even in the work force we need to educate ourselves in technology skills, and what I call human skills. To me human skill include the communication, the socialization, and the feelings, because our current socialization skill are not expressed and educated properly for some people to realize it does include stimuli and this stimuli does include our feelings. Are we too soft, no. Is criticism too harsh, yes.

"There is a sacredness in tears. They are not the mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love." - Washington Irving

“To put the world in order, we must first put the nation in order; to put the nation in order, we must put the family in order; to put the family in order, we must cultivate our personal life; and to cultivate our personal life, we must first set our hearts right.” - Confucius

In conclusion please keep rearing your children with the mental regulation of Jehovah God!  As Confucius brings out we must get our hearts right, and this is by putting Jehovah God in to our lives with every breath we take, for he gave us our breath of life.